Do you remember when the two of you decided to date exclusively? Dating someone new gives you a surge of these feel-good hormones, and it's intoxicating. However, one of the most common issues with any long-term relationship is the struggle to hold onto that allure. Let's dive into what you can do to spice up a relationship.

How To Regain Sexual Confidence

Of course, you want your partner to love and support you at your worst. Yet, once they've seen your "bad" underwear, putting on a pair of sexy anything makes you feel a bit like a fraud.

It's not that you have somehow become less appealing. Of course not! As you transition from dating to dating exclusively, to marriage or living together, it's easy to get lost in the day-to-day minutiae. Living together means that you will spend at least part of your time dealing with the mundane tasks of running a household. Relationships change when they merge with your daily routine rather than serve as an escape from it.

We're multifaceted creatures. So, we have to embrace being both sensible and sensual.

How To Think Sexy

Sexual confidence also comes from knowing your sexual preferences and communicating them without fearing they will be used against you. Both partners must create a safe space to share desires, fantasies, likes, and dislikes. More often than not, you're judging yourself way harsher than your partner ever would.

Speak Up

If you're not sure how to express yourself in a way that works for both of you, just ask. A huge part of being comfortable with yourself, your body, and your desires is to be able to talk about them so that you no longer feel the pressure to hide who you are.

Create Sexual Tension

Sexual tension is created by getting your partner thinking about sex without the assurance it will happen—at least not immediately. The goal is to build up the anticipation, not skip all the steps leading up to it. When was the last time you kissed them profoundly and then just went about your business? Have you given them a lingering hug this week?

It's common for long-term couples to decrease or stop physical contact unless it leads to sex. You used to enjoy kissing for kissing's sake, and now it's a gateway activity. So, when you're not in the mood, you avoid sending your partner signals that may communicate otherwise. You may not even be conscious of what you're doing.

Date nights are an opportunity to create or recreate the chemistry between you, but it's not just physical. You need to stimulate your partner in other ways to develop a deeper level of intimacy.

Dress Up To Spice It Up

To make any date night successful, you need to feel confident and attractive. Wear something you know you look good in. Take your time grooming and catering to yourself from head to toe. Remind yourself of just how desirable you are, and they will undoubtedly see it. More importantly, this confidence will make you irresistible.

Dressing up means this will be different from what you do any other night. Avoid wearing anything that inhibits your enjoyment. Look good, but be comfortable. You can't possibly have a good time if you're fidgeting with your clothes or your shoes are hurting your feet.

Find a New Activity

I cannot emphasize this enough. Where you go on a date matters!

Break the routine; nothing kills a relationship like monotony. The best way to spice up your relationship is to develop a new idea for something fun to do. This can be anything from dinner and a movie to a walk through a park.

Consider the vibe you're trying to set. If you want to have fun and keep it playful, an active daytime activity is best. Go for things that inspire friendly competition or teamwork for deeper engagement.

If you're trying to set the mood for sex, then an evening activity that cranks up the tension is better suited. Find something to do that requires touching, such as dancing or playing pool (a great opportunity to flirt). If you're trying to avoid crowds, a night at home can still create the mood you want to set. No matter the activity, your goal is to tease them—a lot!

Keep Your List of Things to Talk About

Everything in life changes, but our relationship remains. Keep it fresh by figuring out how to keep this relationship as exciting, enjoyable, and supportive as possible. With every partner, you should create a list of things to talk about, talk about what's important to them, discover what's important to you and then communicate them to make yourself and your partner feel good.

Evolve Together

Your interests will change with time, so you will need to be open about exploring those changes to stay bonded. Explore new things together and look for shared interests. The more time allows both of you to grow, the more you will be able to enjoy a fulfilling relationship!

Get Involved

In a healthy relationship, closeness and interest in one another progresses naturally but requires effort to maintain. If a couple is too wrapped up in their busy schedules, then the relationship needs to be reoriented and refocused to prioritize one another.

Embrace The Lulls

There will be times when you just don't feel an epic connection to your partner, but that doesn't mean your relationship will fail. Yes, it is possible to overcome the feeling of disconnect with one another and make your relationship work even better.

When you feel the distance between you two, you can start by focusing on yourself first. There's nothing like focusing on all you've accomplished and having a sense of pride in your accomplishments.

What makes you uniquely you?

Focus on the things that make you whole that have nothing to do with the relationship. This shift in focus will give you a sense of excitement and confidence that you weren't expecting. You can also start asking yourself what you can offer your partner when you feel like your relationship lacks connection.

Spicing up your relationship requires you to get out of your comfort zone and sexual energy. Find that energy you had in the beginning for seducing your partner. Remember to stroke their ego, tell them what you want, and be eager to explore one another mentally, emotionally, and physically. Enjoy!

Things To Spice Up A Relationship