7 Signs You Are Loved
People are constantly telling on themselves if you know what to look for. There are subtle signs in what they say and do that will clue you in on exactly how they feel about you.
But, first, let’s talk about why you’re looking for signs that someone loves you.
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You may be dealing with unresolved feelings from previous relationships or childhood.
This usually happens when a caretaker isn’t responsive to your needs or they were harsh and overly critical.
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To cope with abandonment, some will start people pleasing in order to be more liked and accepted.
This means hiding parts of their personality, needs, or interests for the sake of making the other person happy.
If you’re not presenting the real you, it’s almost impossible to know if that person would still care about you if they knew the real you.
You’ll never feel loved as long as you’re not presenting the real you.
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You’re in a situation that feels hot and cold and you’re not sure what to make of it.
Signs You Are Loved
1. They Make Sacrifices For You
Recently, a couple of my good friends spent their weekend helping me clear out a storage unit. After we were done cleaning, we talked and laughed well into the night. By the end of it, my throat hurt from talking so much, but I felt more loved than I ever expected to feel at a U-Haul.
They sacrificed time and rest, solely for my benefit.
Whether they’re saying it or not, pay attention to the things that people do or don’t do for you.
2. Their Energy Shifts Around You
How you impact someone’s energy says a lot if you know what to look for. Do they light up when you walk into the room? Do they get uncomfortable or moody?
You can sense when someone is happy to see you, but especially when they’re not. If for some reason you’re unsure, they may be giving you mixed signals and that’s your answer.
It can’t be said enough, mixed signals mean no.
What’s the point of having someone around who is lukewarm about you at best? You know you deserve better than that.
3. Hurting You Hurts Them
Another sign that someone loves you is that hurting you hurts them.
If they have a pattern of causing you emotional, psychological, or physical pain those are not the actions of someone who cares about you.
When someone loves you, if they do hurt you, they try to make it right as soon as possible.
Disagreements are going to happen, but the goal is reaching a resolution not winning an argument.
Someone can disagree with you without attacking your character or bullying you into agreeing with them.
4. Their Friends Like You Before You Even Meet Them
When you’re excited about someone, it’s hard not to share the joy with your inner circle. Their first experience of you is how you’re making their friend feel.
If they can’t stop raving about how great you are—you’re going to know it when you meet their friends.
Besides, most people aren’t going to introduce you to their friends unless they like you.
5. They Make Time For You
People who love you want to see you—that’s it!
Obviously, we all have those people who we see every few months or years and it’s like no time has passed at all. But, if you’re dating someone who has every excuse in the book on why they're too busy, cut your losses. Even President Obama made time for his wife while running the country.
How many times have you been triggered by someone suddenly pulling their attention from you? I know I have.
But, once you do the work, you learn:
If they were bothered by something you did, they should communicate that. It’s not your cue to work harder to get their attention.
A relationship needs to start the way you want it to end. Someone who isn’t making time in the beginning won’t make time later.
6. They Care About Your Health and Wellbeing
This is pretty clear-cut. No, not everyone you know will be able to drop everything at a moment’s notice to be by your bedside, but they give a damn about how you’re doing. if anyone makes you feel like being sick or stressed is an inconvenience to them, reevaluate that relationship immediately.
7. You Feel Loved And It’s Easy
You can feel when someone cares about you. Usually, if there’s confusion or uncertainty, it’s a huge red flag that something’s not right. But, when someone really cares, your basic needs don’t feel like you’re asking for too much. They create paths for closeness with you. You feel respected and valued.
